## The trap of "Any reasonable person would

The trap of "Any reasonable person would feel that way"

Recently, I realized that I often live up to my expectation of how I should feel. E.g., if something goes wrong, I often ask myself if my reaction is reasonable.

That makes sense, and when I find it to be unreasonable it's a useful tool. But when I find it to be reasonable, that can intensify emotions that don't really exist, especially feeling wronged.

So I'm trying to do this less.